I struggle with how much I should share with everyone. Sometimes too much information is not wanted. This was one of those times. I decided I would share this because it gives you an insight as to what we are dealing with. It also lets you know a little more about our relationship and how families can create beautiful memories during the simplest of times.
Larry wanted to visit one of our favorite places, The Chicago Botanical Gardens, on Labor Day morning. He feels his best in early morning but I really did not think it was the best choice. We usually do not go there on holidays because of the crowds. I could not change his mind to somewhere closer, so we went. It never entered my mind that he had an agenda.
We have many special places at the Gardens. One of our long time favorites is the Waterfall Garden. At the very top the pool of water is peaceful. We have had good times, with and without our children, having leaf races. Sometimes our leaves would never reach the first waterfall and just swirl around in the calm water. Many times it would slowly move around the outer edges of the pool before it made its descent. Other times they would go straight to the waterfall and plunge downward. Fun memories.
When we arrived at our spot, Larry told me this is the place that he wants us to put some of his ashes. I did not see this coming. My whole body reacted at first by stiffening with watery eyes. After catching my breath I then realized that this was actually a perfect place. My thoughts wandered to the leaves and our races. They could be a symbolism for life, personalities, even end of life journeys. Yes, it is the perfect place.
Oh Mel. I'm crying.
ReplyDeleteLove you guys.
Mel,
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing this story. You and Larry are in my thoughts every day.
So wonderful that you went there - I'm sure it gave Larry some peace. Cherish these memories, even though they make you sad. Our hearts go out to both of you.
ReplyDeleteMelody,
ReplyDeleteWow! What a swirl of emotions after reading your post. I am so deeply saddened that you have to have these difficult discussions, yet so very happy for you that when the time comes, you will have no words left unsaid. Your whole family continues to be in our hearts and prayers daily.
Love,
Sherry
Melody, While I'm saddened by this post, I am also thankful for both of you that you were able to have that conversation with him. Thinking about these things, talking about these things is a painful thing to do, because everything in your being wants to push it away. But I pray that someday you will feel comfort and peace that you did talk about it. And brave, brave Larry--I hope he feels comfort that he was able to share that with you as well. Hugs and God bless.
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